Just read this post over at With Great Expectation, and it was so well written and spot on, I thought it was worth sharing.
13 Things infertile women want women with children to know...
I would also add a 14th
When we talk to you about what we're going through, we are just aching for someone to listen and attempt to empathize. It's okay to admit that you don't understand. In fact, I don't want you to pretend that you understand it. If you have children, you CANNOT understand it. I would argue that even if you've been through it in the past, you can no longer understand it. We also don't want you to come up with answers (like adopt or relax as mentioned above) or even encouraging stories (like all the people you know who got pregnant after they decided to adopt). But we do want someone to listen and maybe even cry with us.
We also are aware that we sound like broken records complaining about the same things. And we recognize that because you don't understand we may sound like big babies. We're sorry about this, but unless you have even an idea of what we're going through (and I'm so glad you don't; I wouldn't wish this on anyone), you don't really get to judge.